John McCain’s campaign is exploiting a bill that was supported by Barak Obama that contained a comprehensive sex education mandate that began with some sort of strategy for children as young as five years of age. We all see this for what it is… yet another opportunity to blow one facet of a situation out of proportion so that they use if for political gain. Blah, blah, blah…..that’s the name of the game until the election is over.
However, this particular issue DOES raise an important question. Exactly whose job IS IT to talk to your children about sex?
Several years ago, a national survey was released that found that most parents wanted their kids to learn more than just the “birds and the bees” basics of sex education. An astounding 80% of those parents surveyed said sexual oritnation, abortion and how to use condoms should be taught. Nearly that many said such controversial issues should be presented in a “balanced” way that presents different view of society. (That’s “code” for tolerant and non-judgemental.)
Of course, the real story may well have been the biased way in which the survey was taken. The survey consisted of fifteen hundred students and parents, plus one thousand sex education teachers and three hundred principals. (Remember that old saying about “liars figure and figures lie”? Well some time researchers manipulate the results by determine who gets to swim in their pool at question time.) It is safe to assume that all of the parents, students, sex education teachers and principals were taken from the public school system. Having over one-third of the respondents be sex edcuation would obviously skew the findings. So much for “sound research.” Of course, that mattered to liberal educators and others who were quick to use this pathetically unsound piece of empirical evidence to promote their argument that kids need more instruction in not just the mechanics and biology of sex, but techniques, values and alternatives.
The students made the claim that 90% of them learned about AIDS and other sexually-transmitted diseases in sex education classes rather than at home. But the fundamental question that needs to be asked is being missed. Whose job is it to teach our children about sex.
As one parent, let me state it clearly and succinctly — MINE.
It is amazing to me that parents sit idly by while the coorupt government school system, which is filled to the brim with liberal sociologists, educational relativists, moral ignorance and which, by statute, is completely void of Christian values, takes over this crucial component of a child’s development and education.
Why? Often because we’re just too uncomfortable talking about sex to have a few frank discussion with our kids as they mature? If that is the case, then we are in worse shape than we can imagine as a country. No wonder, liberal politicians and educators have rushed in to fill the void left by timid parents.
Parents should be indignant, if not outraged, at the thought that their children are being taught “more than the birds and the bees” in typical public school classrooms. In some instances, students are being taught how to properly use condoms utilizing pieces of fruit or anatomically-correct props. Any more and more school districts, children as young as kindergartners are being taught the basics of human reproduction — not simply, “good touch/bad touch”. In many districts, children are being subjected to “instruction” (or indoctrination) on every imaginable form of sexual union — normal and deviant — in a way that is considered “non-judgemental”. Homosexuality is just an alternative lifestyle. Adultery becomes a consequence of evolution and survival of the fittest. Premarital sex? Why, that isn’t even an issue….it’s assumed that “when the right time for you comes”, you’ll just hop right in bed. Just make sure you have “protection”.
So what’s a Christian parent to do?
Well, first of all, we have a responsibility to iknow what our children are being taught. Don’t be intimidated by elitist educators who think they know better than you do what you children need. (I have three degrees in education and I’m well equipped to warn you of the we-know-better-than-parents mentality that permeates the public education system.) If that means making an apointment with your child’s teacher or the administrator of the school and asking to review the material dealing with human sexuality, then do it! If you see that it is inconsistent with your values, too graphic, or premature, then request to have your child exempted from the class. (Once you see the material, it is highly likely that oyu are going to need to consider this option and yes, you are within your rights to keep your child from that class. Don’t be weak and don’t be intimidated. Remember, they are YOUR kids, not the government’s.)
But finally, we must do OUR jobs as parents. We must take the time to have frank conversations about sexuality with our kids. Yep, it will be awkward and uncomfortable. No parent enjoys talking to their kids about sex any more than the kids enjoys having their parent talking to them about it. Everyone simply needs to get over it.
The world is constantly bombarding them with unbiblical messages about sexuality and we must make a counter offensive. That includes turning off the TV, being very aware of where your child is on the internet, being careful about their companions, screening their music and simply being an aware and connected parent. Above all, don’t turn over the privilege and responsibility of training your children in this important area to those whose values or agenda run contrary to that of Biblical worldview.